and self-expression, and can even use tears as a weapon. This is what I mean by saying the brother must always be able to discipline his sister: otherwise I see her making a continual takeover bid, which causes dis- tress to the GG, and sharply reduces her acceptance-level. It is a very practical point: how often is the girl to appear? The answer can scarcely be along the same lines as those pathetically ridiculous investigations which inform you that the average married couple enjoys (well we hope enjoys) relations 2.7 times a week: which makes you regard yourself as a satyr hurtling towards an early grave, or as a premature impotent miss- ing out on life. As we know, and dressing is here the same as lovemaking, frequency is something each couple has to work out to their own mutual satisfaction. But the girl will always push too hard if she is not controlled: I have to say to myself over and over again “Hold it, honey, not tonight, not again, don't be so damn selfish."

We have all, and FPs more than most, a narcissistic strain; we love our synthetic beauty, and wish to parade it, to share what we love with the loved person; but who can enjoy exotic cooking and vintage wines every day? The GG is not as fascinated with FPing as we are; it is essential not to bore her with it, or the tolerance level will take a sharp dip, and this is hard for us to remember, when we feel caught up in some new exciting aspect of our femme personality. Ask yourself what GG will feel the urge to make herself especially beautiful for an evening with her girl friend. FPia is a continuing source of practical problems, all the way up from finding heels in your size to handling a marriage situation, and the last is hard for anyone, but for an FP there is always the over and above difficulty of wifely tolerance. And you want to make her happy too, remember? I myself find I can only solve practical problems by giving them a thorough ventilation in terms of theory. I have to theorize the difficulty into some pattern or structure which I can relate to my behavior in other areas of human activity. It is a girl's privilege to be inconsistent if she desires, and to call it femininity, but if you make the two one you cannot allow that luxury. And this is to remind myself, and you, that FP, properly practised is in no sense self- indulgence: it is one of the strictest disciplines I know (keeping the rules, as I said earlier) and the real rewards come through the discipline. It is not just a matter of checking your stockings for runs, washing out your undies every night, remembering your full beauty treatment even when you are tired and it is easier to skip, or training yourself to sit and bend properly but the external discipline aids in and is a reflection of the necessary inner discipline, that fights the bitch in us and only then allows us to come near, at certain times, to the femininity we claim is our ideal.

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